| In my experience as a police officer I have learned | | | | with concerned parents however other interests have |
| many things. Most of these things have to do with | | | | taken over in her life. Friends have become everything. |
| dealing with those that perpetrate crime and those | | | | These friends come from different families with |
| who are victims of crime. These encounters have to | | | | different values. This is where the conflict has |
| do with human behavior and the boundaries of proper | | | | appeared in her life. The challenge for the rest of us is |
| behavior. | | | | helping this girl see how and where her new interests |
| Have you thought to yourself why is it frequently so | | | | will take her. We have felt mild success as |
| difficult to deal with teenagers? Well I deal with teens | | | | relationships of trust are built and fostered. |
| on a daily basis and despite all that has been said I | | | | In the end, however the teen has to make a choice |
| have found that these teens are people too, at least | | | | regarding this conflict. It is important for adults to |
| inside somewhere, deep. | | | | remember how serious this choice is. For some this |
| It is always difficult when we are exposed to | | | | can feel like a choice between life and death. It's easy |
| someone who has a different opinion than our own. | | | | for the rest of us to be casual about this because the |
| When opinions differ or opposing perceptions collide | | | | right choice seems so obvious to us. It is important to |
| there is often conflict. This is where much of the | | | | know it is much different to this young person who is |
| conflict with adults and teens originates. Therefore it is | | | | still developing and searching. Therefore it is important |
| important to always make clear the difference | | | | that the adult does everything possible to help the teen |
| between fact and opinion. Opinions change, facts | | | | be fully informed about the choice before them. |
| always remain the same. | | | | Provide options and show how making different |
| I have found that it does absolutely no good to tell | | | | choices will improve things and provide security for the |
| someone they're wrong. I have found that to be more | | | | teen now and in the future. |
| effective is to help someone see the consequences | | | | The choice to go with the crowd or with the few can |
| of their behavior for themselves. It is important for | | | | be a very difficult choice to make. I believe it is |
| anyone to see this if there is to be significant and | | | | absolutely essential that we never give up on these |
| lasting change. If you don't know the cliff is there why | | | | kids. Our very own future is quite literally at stake |
| would you ever be concerned about being close to | | | | anytime we counsel and guide the youth. |
| the edge? | | | | With patience, determination and perseverance we |
| I dealt with a teen today who was involved in some | | | | can and will overcome these challenges and guide our |
| gangster activities. This girl was raised in a good home | | | | youth to a much better way. |